The Bible says in Proverbs 15:33, “The reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord brings instruction in wisdom, and humility comes before honor.” (AMP) When you care about what God thinks of your choices, wisdom comes freely. Another amazing verse to live by is 1 Peter 5:6, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.” (NIV) I have learned, and have often taught my children and those I mentor, if you don’t humble yourself willingly, you will be humbled… by life if by nothing else.
The first time I was invited to a baby shower for a teenage mom, I was in emotional turmoil the whole time. This young woman was a Christian, and everyone around her seemed to be just tickled to be throwing a party for her. I was a young adult, so I hadn’t experienced this kind of thing before and didn’t know how to process what I was feeling. I knew that God loved this girl and wanted her baby to be provided for, yet I felt weird ooh-ing and ahh-ing over every baby outfit she unwrapped. Now that I have a good 10 years of learning to give me perspective on the event, I realize why I felt so weird.
The teenage mom we were supposed to be celebrating was still living in rebellion to God sexually with her boyfriend. She was refusing God’s blessing by not walking in obedience to his command for sexual purity, yet soliciting the blessings of friends and family out of sheer need for financial support. She was not living in a place of humility, where she knowingly identified her supreme need for God and her church to help her. Honor had come before humility, instead of humility leading to honor, and that upsets the order of God’s Kingdom.
It would have been very different if this girl had become pregnant and had a complete turnaround in her heart, accepting her mistake and vowing to walk out the road to motherhood with reverence to the Lord and his guidelines for her life. How I wish she had had parents who were spiritually mature enough to coach her through such a delicate set of circumstances. Had she been my daughter, I would have helped her begin the party with some words of gratitude and humility, thanking everyone for their grace and forgiveness to come alongside her in this season of repentance and restoration. Sadly, most parents don’t even think that way, so why would I expect their children to?
I wish I could tell you that this teenager grew up to live an obedient Christian life, despite the challenges of being a young single mother. Unfortunately, she is now a single mother of two, is no longer in church, and does not seem to be in fellowship with God.
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